10 years, 10 lessons.
I remember when my marriage was 7 years, i did document some lessons (please do search for it on the blog, its titled 7 years, 7 lessons). Of course, as the years went by we continue to grow and learn a lot. This time, i wanted my husband to also share some of the lessons learned over the years. We were able to summarize to 10 short lessons shared below:
Fun and true fact- Marriage is the first system God put in place to refine us. Long before salvation came to play. Embrace the process of refinement.
It’s a lie from hell, that you are supposed to continue to be who you were before marriage. Never! You are supposed to be better and do better.
See that popular triangle description? The one that has God at the top point and both of you at the edges, it works magic. The closer you both draw closer to God, you automatically draw closer to each other.
Forgiving each other is very important, it’s true! What is less talked about is forgiving yourself. Learn to forgive each other and most importantly forgive yourself too.
“I am sorry” actually means “ I apologize for what I have done, I will remember the conversation we had about this and choose to do better next time”
Leisure together, after that family movie with the kids, watch your own movie together, go on strolls, play games... find any activity you both love to do and bond over it.
Pray about anything and everything! There is a strategic reason why this is number 7 :)
Be determined to come together in agreement, over anything: projects, vision implementation, dream actualization etc. There is power in agreement, one shall chase a thousand and two, tens of thousands.
Leverage on each other’s strength, compliment and work together as a team. Mr A always says “we are on the same team” Learn from each other, it’s a beautiful dance, learn and take those steps.
Life can get very busy, its easy to get into the routines of work, children, business and ministry. Take moments to pause and remind each other of those dreams and desires and steps to accomplish them. And if a dream has been accomplished, take time to dream new ones.
Yours in the walk...
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