WHAT DO YOU SEE (1)
I remember like it was yesterday, some few
weeks to my wedding day, i was worried about if I was making the right
decision or not. Why few weeks to the D-day?, you would ask, but it happens,
should I say I was getting cold feet because of things I saw around me? Well I
remember examining other marriages and there were only few, I mean few that I
liked, of which I was only judging from what I saw, so I started asking
questions! Don’t get me wrong, I had been in a relationship with my husband for
five good years and I love him to pieces :) .
But I figured out that spouses must have loved each
other so much at a point to even consider getting married in the first
instance, so what happened? So I embarked on what I would call “key informant
interview”. I went to my older friends and women that were married and started asking
questions, about marriage. Was that a mistake? Not exactly, I got the
information I was looking for, "that there were various issues in marriage". Will
I advise my single friends to do the same? No! because one marriage is
different from the other. I had more questions than answers at the end of the
day.
The peak was when I talked to my dad
about it. Actually, he had engaged me in series of discussions since my wedding
date was fixed (and I enjoyed every bit of it), but I recall him telling me
“honey, marriage is like a gift, you can unwrap it and see gold and you can
unwrap it and see a snake”. And that was it. I didn’t want to hear anymore. I
decided to consult God himself, I remember reading through the scriptures and
seeking answers on why marriages turn sour, why lovers in a relationship, got
married and became fighters? These and so many other questions were on my mind.
Very funny but I remember going through every relationship in the bible and
studying so many books on relationships and marriage.
(Concludes Next week)... Still walking...
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