My Walk Down The Aisle

Marriage has taught me that it is a different thing to forgive and accept an apology. Marriage they say is between two forgivers but when a spouse hurts the other in a deep way and apologizes, do we really, truly forgive? It is easy to say “mo ti gbo” meaning “I have heard you” but the truth is that most times the pain lingers and we are reminded of how hurt it feels which makes us react even after the other party has apologized. In a marriage relationship, sometimes sorry is not enough, it is so important to talk through the issues and handle each issue through communication and letting each other understand why and what areas to be addressed. This is how anger and hurt feelings can be channeled towards the growth of both spouses, both spouses having an in-depth understanding of why the other party is annoyed. Sometimes the actual cause of our anger can be something different, it is important to understand the root cause of our anger and be able to sincerely communicate it with...

God is always in the business of reconciling the church (his body) back to him and one of the greatest avenue for this is marriage . Marriage was God's idea, he ordained it to be so and this marriage relationship is compared with Christ and the Church (Ephesians 5:21-33). Marriage is one of God’s tool to reconciling his body (you and I) back to him and God will use your marriage, your husband, your wife, your in-laws, children, situations etc. to make you that perfect person that he (God) wants you to be. As you and your spouse take that deliberate walk towards Christ everyday, you are both changing, to becoming more like God into that man, that woman, that parent, that God truly wants you to be. It is a deliberate walk to lay down all you think you know, having a teachable spirit and be willing to learn in love. This walk is sacrificial and deliberate but will make you an all round better person. Christ gave up himself for the church (his body) to make her holy and to pre...