My Walk Down The Aisle

As the year runs to an end, here are some recap of some of the lessons learned during the year. Marriage  is a journey towards Christ,  a deliberate walk you have to make everyday with your spouse  towards a perfect God. "First Steps (January 2013)". God is always in the business of reconciling the church (his body) back to him and one of the greatest avenue for this is  marriage.  As you and your spouse take that deliberate walk towards Christ everyday, you are both changing, to becoming more like God into that man, that woman, that parent, that God truly wants you to be.  "The Reconciliation Business (February 2013)". In a marriage relationship, sometimes sorry is not enough, it is so important to talk through the issues and handle each issue through communication and letting each other understand why and what areas to be addressed. Both parties should help each other in the...

This is something new i am learning as i walk down the aisle of marriage everyday... Marriage is between two forgiving person as i have been told and i am learning to forgive my husband through God's grace. But there comes the issue of forgiving myself when i do wrong, especially when i don't mean to. Anyway, i usually don't mean to do the wrong that i do, but most times i find it hard to move past the wrong even when my husband says he has forgiven me. I find myself still apologizing and referring back to it, even when my husband has moved past it. I have come to learn that forgiving your spouse is one thing and forgiving yourself is something else. The enemy tries to rub in the guilt by making it so obvious the hurt or harm caused.This is his tactic even with our relationship with Christ. God is a forgiving father, if we confess and repent, he forgives us! but most times we find it hard to forgive ourselves."There is therefore now, no condemnation for those wh...

'...But where sin increased, grace increased all the more.' Romans 5:20 You need a lot of grace in marriage. Even in the best of relationships, things happen that cause misunderstanding and hurt. Speaking about his marriage, therapist Michael Sytsma says: 'Before I was married, God said, "Mike, you have some rough edges. To help you become more Christ-like, I'm giving you Karen. That should do the trick." So he brought Karen...into my life to identify all my shortcomings. My first response when she points out my flaws? Not gratitude! Instead, I strike back: "How dare you point out those things? What's your problem?" Then I have the opportunity of either denying my feelings, or owning them and maturing. And Karen can either harbor anger and resentment, or offer grace and forgiveness. Imagine a marriage filled with grace: a spouse who extends joy, pleasure, sweetness, kind speech and unmerited favor. My wife does that. I'm still working at...

God takes the covenant of marriage seriously, anyway, he is himself a covenant keeping God and he expects us to be like him! Yea! He also wants us to take that marriage covenant seriously and that is proved by the fact that he is a witness at every marriage ceremony. Yes, he was there at that very moment you made that vow, no matter how big or small that ceremony was, God was definitely present. “ Yet you ask, why does he reject it? Because the Lord was witness to the covenant made at your marriage between you and the wife of your youth…” Malachi 2 v 14 After witnessing this covenant ceremony, God sees both spouses as one. We become one before him! When he sees Dave, he sees Pat! When he sees Mary, He sees Daniel too! Because we have become one in his presence. He will not bless one and leave the other, No! When he blesses one spouse, he has automatically blessed the other! When he provides for one, he has automatically provided for the other too! But the question i...

I have always wondered on this mystery and I finally got an answer to it! In my few marital years, I have observed that moments when I make God my priority, when I totally yield to him is when am closest to my husband. The closer I am to God, the closer I am to my husband. I am more patient, loving and I even hear things on his mind!! This really baffles me a lot, it is so amazing, the mystery of unity in marriage. This mystery is simply God. Remember the three fold cord? GOD, YOU AND YOUR SPOUSE? The three fold cord that cannot be easily broken(Eccl 4v 12b). Am going to use this image as an illustration; God Husband                                      Wife The truth is the closer we are to God, the closer we get to our spouses. The couple in the triangle above, has God as t...